In the early days of your relationship, he seemed charming and attentive. You were happy to spend time with him, and it felt like you could talk to him about anything. It wasn’t long before you married him, but then things took a turn for the worse. You started to see signs that the man you loved was no longer the man you knew. Husband hurts wife emotionally and physically, making her feel trapped in the relationship.
Abusive relationships can have a profound effect on the mental and physical health of those involved. If you are in an abusive relationship, it is important to seek help. There are many resources available to help you escape an abusive situation and get back on your feet.
You should never feel as if you’re trapped in a relationship.
You are not trapped, you are stuck. You are not trapped, you are in a relationship. You are not trapped, you have chosen to enter into this relationship. You chose to marry him and bring children into the world with him. These children love their father and he is their home base, but they need your guidance and protection as well because they can’t see what’s going on behind closed doors at night or when he’s angry during the day. They love both of their parents equally; therefore it is up to YOU alone to decide what happens next by leaving him sooner than later before things get worse than they already are now.
Don’t let anyone make excuses for your husband either (“Oh well he’s just stressed out from work/the kids/etc.”). It doesn’t matter how much pressure he’s under; no matter what happens in his life there will always be someone else who has more pressure than him (like parents of sick children). The bottom line is that he is abusing you and your children in some ways or another every day when no one is around to stop him from his behavior.
If you have an abusive husband, then you know better than anyone how hard it is to break free of an unhealthy relationship.
If you have an abusive husband, then you know better than anyone how hard it is to break free of an unhealthy relationship. There’s a lot of pressure for women to stay in their marriages and be “tough” because they’re supposed to be the ones who can handle everything, but that doesn’t mean that it’s easy. In fact, staying with an abuser is one of the most difficult things a woman can do.
That said, it’s not impossible. One of the first steps toward escaping abuse is recognizing that your situation isn’t hopeless, there are some things that you can do on your own, like getting counseling and finding support groups online or in person (like with Al-Anon). But there are also other options if those don’t work out: Resources like Safe Horizon or National Domestic Violence Hotline provide phone numbers for local shelters and offer information about resources available in each state as well as additional resources such as legal help for victims who want to leave their abusers behind entirely.
Stop telling yourself that you love him.
You are not responsible for the way he treats you, so stop trying to make sense of it or justify it. You can’t fix him and you can’t change him, so don’t waste your time trying. He doesn’t deserve your love or attention when he’s treating you like this, no matter what his reasons are for doing so; if he wants to change for himself, then let him do it without pressuring yourself into doing anything differently than what makes sense for your life outside of the relationship.
Decide where you’ll go after you leave.
You can go to a friend or family member’s house, if they’ll have you. This might be the best option if your husband knows where your friends and family live, but will give him more time to find you if he doesn’t know.
Don’t forget about shelters. Shelters are usually considered the first place people think of when considering how to escape an abusive relationship, but there’s a reason why: They’re safe places for women who need them. Shelters offer emergency housing for up to 30 days with no questions asked (after 30 days, most shelters require that residents find another place to stay). You can also receive counseling while living at a shelter and learn how to apply for government assistance programs like food stamps so that once you leave your abusive relationship, you’ll have some financial stability on which to rely.
If possible, call the police first before going anywhere else; many states have laws in place that prevent police officers from arresting domestic violence perpetrators until 24 hours after they’ve released their victims from custody (meaning that if he gets away before law enforcement arrives at his house), then they might not be able to do anything about it anyway). If calling the cops isn’t possible because it could put someone else at risk or because it would simply lead nowhere good in terms of getting out of an abusive partner situation quickly (as many domestic abuse cases do), then consider going straight into hiding instead just so long as there aren’t any children involved who need protection too.
You may also want to consider staying at one hotel after leaving home because hotels allow only one person per room unlike apartments/houses where roommates often share space together which means less risk involved by having someone else around when trying escape marriage abuse issues like physical violence etcetera…
Create a safety plan.
If you’re in an abusive relationship, it’s important to have a safety plan in place. A safety plan is simply a set of steps that you and your children can take if you need to leave your home without warning.
The first step is to find a safe place for yourself and your children to go, a friend’s house, family member’s house or relative’s house that isn’t shared by anyone else in the family. Decide ahead of time how long this person will be willing to host you; then call them and ask if they can accommodate your stay while giving them as much notice as possible (24 hours is ideal). Make sure everyone knows where their room is so they know where they’ll be sleeping each night.
Next think about what resources are available where this person lives (such as counseling services) so that if necessary someone can help with any problems that arise after leaving an abusive situation such as depression or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). They may also need legal services from organizations like Legal Aid Society who provide free representation through lawyers who work pro bono on cases involving domestic violence victims throughout New York City including Brooklyn/Queens/Bronx/Staten Island areas plus Nassau & Suffolk Counties outside NYC limits.
Pack your things and go.
Now is the time to pack your things and go. Take nothing that belongs to your husband, children, family, friends or neighbors. This can be very hard for some women who have been in abusive relationships for many years. But if you are going through this situation now, it may be best just to leave everything behind and start fresh with only what you need on hand at the moment, some clothes and toiletries in a bag; maybe some money too if possible.
It’s important not to take anything else because otherwise it could get messy later on when there is an issue between two people involved in the situation like yourself (the victim) and someone else such as one of your relatives or perhaps even another person related by marriage such as an ex-spouse who may want something back from what belonged originally before separation took place due
The decision to leave an abusive relationship is one that only you can make, but it can be the best decision you ever made. You deserve to live your life free from emotional or physical abuse and with someone who truly loves and respects you. It is possible, even if your husband has made it seem like it’s not.
